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pixiechic said: "Soda and Beer? She should switch to water. Lots of empty calories!"

shirley9122001 said: "[QUOTE=spunkymonkey]today i came home and there was a message left on my answering machine from my best friend (who lives in michigan) anyway, she told me how she looked at herself in a full length mirror today and she has realized that she has become a "discusing fat pig" and that she needs my help cuz she wants to loose weight. anyway she is quite over weight however she doesnt eat very much, she just drinks alot of beer and pop. but i dont know what to tell her i am stuggling to loose weight myself. she is about 5'1 and about 295lbs. any suggestions from anyone would be apresheated thanks[/QUOTE] I have a sister that is about 5' 2'' 260lbs she will diet by only eatting once a day and only about 500 cal a day, she can not loose any weight. I have told her numerous times that if she don't eat enough her body will hold on to every thing she eats cause it is trying to hold on to the food it needs. I am 5' 7'' I weighed 265, but now weigh about 170 . I eat twice a day and a small snack at night. seems to work for me. I did weigh about 155 but got pregnate last year and have gained about 15 lbs but am now working on that. So anyway maybe when she is dieting she is not eatting enough."

USEDtobetiny said: "You need to let her know that you are there for support. Tell her that any food that isn't BENEFITTING her body should not be consumed. I know for myself too that I had to work out some self esteem issues that I blamed on my weight. But the truth is that the gain of weight was a result of low self esteem. Help her set up a plan. Hold her accountable and have her hold you accountable. This could help you both. Tell her to go to a gym and find a buddy to work out with, or take a class. She needs to have an old friend(you) who can sympathize and understand, but maybe a few new pals close to home with a similar issue AND similar goals would help her also. And for goodness sake, send her to the forum!!!! Just knowing you guys are here has been a huge part of getting me started. Good luck, and tell your friend we are rooting for her"

Henrietta said: "Good work on the weight loss, Shirley. You're right that people cannot starve themselves to lose weight. It's counter-productive."

spunkymonkey said: "today i came home and there was a message left on my answering machine from my best friend (who lives in michigan) anyway, she told me how she looked at herself in a full length mirror today and she has realized that she has become a "discusing fat pig" and that she needs my help cuz she wants to loose weight. anyway she is quite over weight however she doesnt eat very much, she just drinks alot of beer and pop. but i dont know what to tell her i am stuggling to loose weight myself. she is about 5'1 and about 295lbs. any suggestions from anyone would be apresheated thanks"

Darren said: "At 5'1 and almost 300 pounds she needs to get on it. She's eating "something" to make her weigh that much. Tell her to write down every thing she eats for one week. She doesn't need to weigh herself or anything. Just write down everything she consumes, including alcohol. Then review it in a week. She can start from there."

cvalh said: "at least you don't have a best friend who is 5'1, 125 lbs, and complaining she's the fattest she's ever been and needs to lose SO much weight. it's painful since i'm 95 lbs heavier than she is... but sorry, that's off topic. does your friend have any glandular disorders? that can make it really hard to lose the weight, even if you don't eat much. it sounds like her diet needs improving, but she might also want to check with a doc."