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Happiness....

cvalh said: "lilphish, I sort of disagree. I think happiness CAN be a choice. Some people have all the makings of a happy life, but choose to be unsatisfied (I'm not referring to people with chemical deficiencies, some people really do make this choice). Of course, Stroutman, you have to define something here... What is the difference between happiness and satisfaction? What IS happiness? This question is very loaded... I think there are moments of "fleeting" happiness in everyone's life, when you just feel uplifted and carefree, but that doesn't mean you're a happy person. I guess I think there are two types of happiness. One is a temporary "feeling," and another is a state of being. You can also be a happy person experiencing a moment of sadness... AHHH! Feelings are complicated. (Sigh - you guys bring up interesting things. I can't keep quiet even when I want to)."

UniqueMystique said: "Nope...I'm having trouble too. Maybe Heather and Darren are working on the glitches in the system and things are a bit haywire at the moment. :confused:"

stroutman81 said: "[QUOTE=xlilphishx]Oh boy. This is one that makes you think. Happiness is NOT a choice. It is most certainly a feeling. I think there are people that are just born happy and others that are not. I am one who falls in the middle. Some days, I am *****y and others I am extremely happy. What makes me happy? A sunny day sure does. Being healthy. Having a good job. My parents, my boyfriend and friends all make me happy. Shopping and buying new things make me happy too! Retail therapy is the best! LOL.[/QUOTE] So what about this? Does perception create happiness? Don't we always have a choice?"

stroutman81 said: "[QUOTE=cvalh]lilphish, I sort of disagree. I think happiness CAN be a choice. Some people have all the makings of a happy life, but choose to be unsatisfied (I'm not referring to people with chemical deficiencies, some people really do make this choice). Of course, Stroutman, you have to define something here... What is the difference between happiness and satisfaction? What IS happiness? This question is very loaded... I think there are moments of "fleeting" happiness in everyone's life, when you just feel uplifted and carefree, but that doesn't mean you're a happy person. I guess I think there are two types of happiness. One is a temporary "feeling," and another is a state of being. You can also be a happy person experiencing a moment of sadness... AHHH! Feelings are complicated. (Sigh - you guys bring up interesting things. I can't keep quiet even when I want to).[/QUOTE] See, for me, in my mind, that "fleeting" happiness as you put it, is when things are so obviously good that you can't help but to be happy. For instance, suppose you wake up, the sun's shining, it's a Saturday morning, your significant other is making you breakfast, birds are chirping, your boss calls and doubles your salary, and you win 250 bucks on a scratch off lottery card. If you aren't happy that day, somethings wrong with you. Happiness forces itself into your mind. The state of happiness, a more permanent way of being, I think is established through actually putting effort into controlling your thoughts and therefore your perceptions. Some people are certainly naturally happier than others due to multiple reasons. But on average, I think happiness is something you have to work at. Too many people let their minds run on auto-pilot. Negativity is going to infect all of us at some point. And from my experience, when you let your mind run on auto-pilot, even slight negativities have a cancerous effect on one's emotional state. Again, only my opinions, but certainly an interesting topic of convo."

stroutman81 said: "Is happiness a choice? Or just a feeling? Secondary to that, specifically what makes you happy?"

stroutman81 said: "Man, if only it was that easy for everyone."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "I like that post Kat. :) I'm glad you found your happiness."

stroutman81 said: "[QUOTE=DBrew]I agree with everyone here. Mahesh, the sun shining always makes me feel a little happier and freer. A good example of choosing to be happy would be my mother right new. 4 years ago she lost both her breasts to cancer, it returned big time last year and is in many of her bones but she is so happy and optomistic. SHe tries everyday to figure out her healing and reads inspirational books all the time. SHe has taught me so much about life through her illness. She goes to chicago every month for treatments and she is planning to never give up. When you have children this is very important to teach them. I try to show them that life is hard work but do everything with a smile. That, and I am one of those naturally good natured people, like my mom.[/QUOTE] It certainly shines through you Denise."

stroutman81 said: "Am I the only one having problems posting?"

stroutman81 said: "[QUOTE=*~~YK~~*]I believe it's a choice. You can choose whether or not you want to look at an event with a pessimistic view or an optimistic view. Looking at things with optimism will allow you to be happier easier, in my opinion. Such as maybe if one only ran 2 miles and wanted to run 5. One should be glad they ran at all and didn't stay home on the couch/pig out or whatever a person would be doing before they started working out ( real life story! :) )[/QUOTE] I wholeheartedly agree. :)"

xlilphishx said: "Oh boy. This is one that makes you think. Happiness is NOT a choice. It is most certainly a feeling. I think there are people that are just born happy and others that are not. I am one who falls in the middle. Some days, I am *****y and others I am extremely happy. What makes me happy? A sunny day sure does. Being healthy. Having a good job. My parents, my boyfriend and friends all make me happy. Shopping and buying new things make me happy too! Retail therapy is the best! LOL."

DBrew said: "I agree with everyone here. Mahesh, the sun shining always makes me feel a little happier and freer. A good example of choosing to be happy would be my mother right new. 4 years ago she lost both her breasts to cancer, it returned big time last year and is in many of her bones but she is so happy and optomistic. SHe tries everyday to figure out her healing and reads inspirational books all the time. SHe has taught me so much about life through her illness. She goes to chicago every month for treatments and she is planning to never give up. When you have children this is very important to teach them. I try to show them that life is hard work but do everything with a smile. That, and I am one of those naturally good natured people, like my mom."

DBrew said: "I agree with everyone here. Mahesh, the sun shining always makes me feel a little happier and freer. A good example of choosing to be happy would be my mother right new. 4 years ago she lost both her breasts to cancer, it returned big time last year and is in many of her bones but she is so happy and optomistic. SHe tries everyday to figure out her healing and reads inspirational books all the time. SHe has taught me so much about life through her illness. She goes to chicago every month for treatments and she is planning to never give up. When you have children this is very important to teach them. I try to show them that life is hard work but do everything with a smile. That, and I am one of those naturally good natured people, like my mom."

DBrew said: "Ooh, that is Riske, Rudy. I have been having trouble posting, too. This is the reason for my double post. Sorry guys, did'nt want to make you read it twice."

naynay said: "[QUOTE=*~~YK~~*]I believe it's a choice. You can choose whether or not you want to look at an event with a pessimistic view or an optimistic view. Looking at things with optimism will allow you to be happier easier, in my opinion. Such as maybe if one only ran 2 miles and wanted to run 5. One should be glad they ran at all and didn't stay home on the couch/pig out or whatever a person would be doing before they started working out ( real life story! :) )[/QUOTE] thats pretty much what i was going to say i like to try and look at things as it could be worse and there are ppl who would love to have my life...that always makes me feel better, trying to look at the good things"

Kat_the_Amazon said: "Happiness can definitely be both. For me, happiness was a choice when i was younger. I was going through a lot of stuff in my teenage years (as has everyone) and instead of trying to get over it, i allowed it to consume my life. I could have been happy if i chose therapy and chose to work through it. The only happines that i got from my horse. The feeling that i got from him was not a choice, but going to see him was a choice. He made me happy. The happiest was when we were galloping in cross-country jumping everything. That's fun stuff. Of course now that i am older (smarter), i chose to work through it and chose happiness. I am happy and choose to surround myself with stuff that makes me happy. I think happiness is a choice and a feeling because some things you can't help but feel happy about. :D"

mahesh67 said: "Happiness is a sunny day to me!"

mahesh67 said: "I am very simple. Even a simpleton :) Haha"

mahesh67 said: "Happiness is a troll free forum. Hopefully we have one soon! :laugh:"

*~~YK~~* said: "[QUOTE=stroutman81]Is happiness a choice? Or just a feeling? Secondary to that, specifically what makes you happy?[/QUOTE] I believe it's a choice. You can choose whether or not you want to look at an event with a pessimistic view or an optimistic view. Looking at things with optimism will allow you to be happier easier, in my opinion. Such as maybe if one only ran 2 miles and wanted to run 5. One should be glad they ran at all and didn't stay home on the couch/pig out or whatever a person would be doing before they started working out ( real life story! :) )"

BestinTess said: "Happiness is a funny thing....I personally spent a lot of time seeking it and not finding it and thus making myself more unhappy. But then it occurred to me that it wasn't worth the unhappiness I was feeling to seek this happiness...so I settled for contentedness....and soon I was happy! Thereupon, I started a journey to enrich my life. To make the content of a higher value...to make the happiness I was deriving more valuable, in my opinion. And so far it has worked. In my life, I have very few things to truly complain about. I can complain with the best of them. But I have done enough cognitive therapy to know that it's alllllllll about perspective. And for the most part, I have a very good perspective. (Cept of course, when it comes to getting my lazy butt out of bed to work out in the morning)"

RudyOrtiz67 said: "Happiness is a hot lover to warm your bed on a cold night!"

RudyOrtiz67 said: "I choose to be happy today!"

penny6 said: "i think that happiness is a choice. some people never seem to be happy. one person that isnt very happy is this woman that works at the bank. she has a frown everytime i see her and always seems to be complaining. i dont know if i just catch her at a bad time, but her mood is pretty consistent for the most part. it reminds me of the saying fake it until you make it. if you exude happiness, its bound to be contagious at some point in time."