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sabrinakayb said: "I can relate. It has taken me a long time to learn to say NO. But, once you allow yourself to do it, it feels pretty good. I always hated it because it made me feel so bad, but when I made myslef do these things I still felt bad. So I decided one day that I was going to do what I wanted, when I wanted and those around me would just have to understand. It is amazing how things work out, my friends didn't hate me nor were they really upset with me. It turns out that I was my own worst enemy. So, I guess you just have to decide what is priority and what isn't. I think that the biggest thing that I have learned through it all is what I think and feel matters just as much as what others may think and feel. Anyway, just thought I would put in my two cents. Hope this finds you having a better day. :rolleyes:"
shrkntz said: ":) I had a life coach tell me once:
Imagine you are on a airplane with your child and the plane is about to crash. Give yourself the air first so that you can care for you child.
You have to always give yourself air first. Look out for yourself because if you take care of yourself, everything will fall into place. Sometimes if we don't meet all of our list, it means maybe the list is too big. Take a few, do a few. It is overwhelming to do everything all at once, many of us take on too much and end up doing very little. Don't kick yourself for not getting it done, just finish it when you can. Honestly, why make a mountain out of a molehill, if the molehill is only little. Take some and leave the rest. Always allow yourself one day of rest, as I bet most of us are working real hard at our goals. We are here for eachother."
UniqueMystique said: "Ugh! Why is it that people have to try and ruin your plans? You can have something planned out and then someone comes along and convinces you or guilts you to do something with them or for them and then your plans are shot to hell. I hate it when I allow this to happen and it just causes me more frustration and stress because I wasn't getting the things done that I needed to do. I don't do this often....but when I do...it just eats at me and I can feel it all through my body.
Ok...I feel a bit better now. :p"
UniqueMystique said: "Yep.....and 9 times out of 10...it's because another person was allowed to sidetrack us."
UniqueMystique said: "Nothing like having a list and not accomplishing it all in the time alotted. I hate having things left undone."
UniqueMystique said: "I say 'no' to most people. I learned to do that a long time ago. It's just harder to say 'no' to those that I'm close with....best friends, spouses, children, parents, family members. Yesterday was 'family' issues that cropped up and ruined my plans. I was helping them...but putting my plans on the back burner in the process. There just isn't enough hours in a day!"
Holly said: "It feels good to vent. I have a hard time being too flexible with my plans. I start the day off with a list of things that I want to accomplish and it irritates me when I can't get them done (for one reason or another)."
Qian said: "That sounds like every weekend i have ever had. I start out with a list of things to do, and then by the middle of the list i have had to stop and do something else. There is nothing more irritating."