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spectrachic311 said: "I used to work with a chick like that. She was not huge, but she was pretty chunky and once she saw me wear a sleeveless shirt, she commented on how buff I was and how fat she was. At the time, we were both getting in shape for our weddings, so it was so obnoxious to hear her complain about trying to lose weight. She did WW, but she kept on b*****ing about how hungry she was all the time. I didn't have the guts to tell her off, but I DID tell her that I got the body I got by eating healthy and running. She didn't like that too much."
naynay said: "lol glad you got it off your chest:)"
angel_rising said: "Welcome Pumpkinking85
Glad to have you on board. I agree with you that in high school women do tend to get a bit obssesive about there weight. I honestly believe though that the majority of them do grow out of it and set a more resonable goal.
I look forward to seeing more of your post on the boards,.
[COLOR="DeepSkyBlue"]Help6363[/COLOR], Good for you, using the experiance with the women for your own benifit. It might not have been the best way to handle the situation but atleast you were not letting her excuses about her weight drag you down. You are strong. You will do this.
Angel"
help6363 said: "Hello :)
At work (hope my boss does not read this LOL), this woman has been annoying me. Why? She reminds me of me before I lost weight. Before I lost weight, I would run around talking about my weight, openly comparing myself to others and informing everyone of excuses about why I could NOT lose the weight and yes all the excuses were rubbish! What do I say to her? I know what I would like to say but I really do not want to hurt her.... truth be known I just want her to stop talking about it! Tried avoiding her but it does not work!!!!!!!! EEEEErrrrrrrrrrrrkkkkkkkkk!
Thanks"
help6363 said: "I yelled, I actually yelled at someone...... poor behaviour on my part. I had a stressful day and then I encounter the woman that cannot lose weight even if all she eats is one grape - does she really think people believe this?
I yelled: 'Stop going on about and just do something about it!'
[B]Strange because I think this saying applies to my life too - I think that's WHY she was annoying me so much! [/B]
PS: Thanks for the advice! :th_dblthumb2:"
help6363 said: "[QUOTE=magickalfairy111]:roll: what did she say?[/QUOTE]
Well, I said that: 'Stop going on about and just do something about it!'
She started to defend herself. The typical excuses (I use them enough) came from her mouth, such as it does not work when I do it, I do not have the time and so forth.
I know that I am IMMATURE but I just stood there and yelled 'blah, blah, blah, if only you could put the same energy into your excuses as weight loss you would look fantastic! You enjoy being miserable, you enjoy hating yourself.' The I kept yelling 'get off the cross honey, someone needs the wood.' She walked away after using some pretty colourful words - do you think they were directed at me? :roll:
I FAILED to be compassionate. Now she's upset and refuses to talk to me. I am sorry for being rude and yelling - that's inappropriate. However, I am NOT sorry for saying those things. WHY? She can lose weight, just like she makes up excuses! Oh.... I see myself in her and now everytime I want to binge eat I give myself the same lecture. It really works! I do not know: being hard does not always work but being too soft doesn't either. Now this all needs to be reported to the boss .... my 2ND time for acting inappropriately in the context of work.... think my people skills need some work"
lakelady said: "God, don't you HATE it when you recognize your past bad habits in others!?
Try telling her that you were once overweight yourself and you found that talking about it all the time made it hard for you to actually get ON with the actual weight loss, and you were driving people away. Then give her a long, level look.... If she doesn't take that hint I guess all you can do is keep repeating, 'this too shall pass, this too shall pass...'to yourself like a calming mantra. Have you tried drinking heavily?:roll:"
lakelady said: "[QUOTE=help6363] I had a stressful day and then I encounter the woman that cannot lose weight even if all she eats is one grape - does she really think people believe this?
I yelled: 'Stop going on about and just do something about it!' [/QUOTE]
Yeah, that'll work too help. Looks like you didn't need our advice at all! Way to take the initiative!:th_SmlyROFL: :roll:"
lakelady said: "[QUOTE=help6363] think my people skills need some work[/QUOTE]
:roll: ya THINK?!:roll: but seriously help, you were pushed beyond all endurance. i'm glad you were assertive, it's healthy! i'm proud of you."
DrCOOL959 said: "[quote=lakelady]God, don't you HATE it when you recognize your past bad habits in others!?
Try telling her that you were once overweight yourself and you found that talking about it all the time made it hard for you to actually get ON with the actual weight loss, and you were driving people away. Then give her a long, level look.... If she doesn't take that hint I guess all you can do is keep repeating, 'this too shall pass, this too shall pass...'to yourself like a calming mantra. Have you tried drinking heavily?:roll:[/quote]
Good advice!
lol! Lakelady"
magickalfairy111 said: "Maybe inform her of your weight loss and tell her that there is no excuse. Hmm, maybe not, she'd probably just get pissed off since most people don't want to hear anything until they make the commitment to loss weight."
magickalfairy111 said: ":roll: what did she say?"
Pumpkinking85 said: ":wave:[SIZE="4"]Oh my goodness you have quite the handful. My original suggestion would have been to run down to the corner in the ghetto and buy some sort of depressant and drug her up so she will spend most of her time asleep or eating something. lol. It's one thing to tlak about your weight to someone, but YOU ARE TOTALLY right, it gets very annoying very fast.
Do you know what's even more annoying than that? When a girl who is not even fat whines about their weight constantly. My girlfriend doesn't complain about her weight often but occasionally she does, she's beautiful though and she's not even very overweight. She look beautiful to me and to other guys too. Guys probably go nuts for her and she seems to think she's like hideous. In highschool girls were always complaining about their weight, even the SKINNY ones who were like 100lbs and 5'8. It's ridiculous, men like a little chubbiness u know. Most AVERAGE guys don't like anorexic model type girls. I find those type of girls to be DISGUSTING!!! Most of us men like a girl who has a few pounds extra, that's true beauty. Being overly fat is not healthy and not attractive to most guys but a little extra chub is fine with me. And by a little i mean a decent amount a rather large amount but not overly fat. I love a little hint of belly and nice thick thighs and just all around plumpness. It's TOTALLY hot.
Skinny girls= 0 Chubby girls= 100!!!! Chubs win everytime in my eyes! There is a difference between morbidly obese and chubby though! God, I love my wifey. :) Well we're not actually married and i'm not sure she loves me like i love her but we'll find out I guess? For now I'm with her which is great, I hope to be forever too. i'm totally romantic. eeep :D I've known her since she was a teenybopper woohoo :D Love is the best
I'm sure plenty of us are a little obsessed with our weight but still that doesnt mean anyone wants to hear about it 24 hours a day 7 days a week. That is the reason I pay 150$ an hour to a psychologist! she should be giving you money for having to listen to her whining etc. lol I feel for you, you really got stuck with a problem. I wish you luck! i'm new here so i won't bud in too much, I will just spectate. [/SIZE]"