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pixiechic said: "are you still living with your bf?"

katmoniz said: "Boy do i understand how you feel. I moved 1200 miles away when i was 18. Now I am married and had a kid with him but that was just as hard. It has been 8 years almost, wow, and i can say it does get easier. email them or call them as much as possible. Let your boyfriend know how you are feeling and ask him to be patient with you as long as you need to get used to the idea of being away from home. Now you might find this difficult with men they arent always the most sensitive creatures. Good luck and get rid of that ice cream...... :D"

pixiechic said: "aside from being away from home, do you like it there? if you haven't met many people, making a new friend or two could lift your spirits. if your co workers aren't your cup of tea, check to see if there is a rec center or ymca that has classes or activities that you could get involved with. maybe there are some volunteer programs that you could get involved with? being a part of the community might make you feel more involved with it.."

pixiechic said: "yeah. that is actually a really good idea! plus you don't have to pay for long distance, either :)"

pixiechic said: ":) that would be easiest!"

beamish21 said: "can some one help me im 26 years old im married have a 17 month old son and we moved from new jersey to fl the end of march so 4 months ago and im really home sick i miss my family like crazy talking to them on computer and phone dont help i mean its even making me sick i get headaches all the time and my tummy is sick all the time lots time i dont evn want to eat anything i dont really do anything but stay in house all the time it to ho to go out plus i never no when im gonna have a good day or a day people stay i will get over it but when its already been 4 months now i dont want to fell like this forever i mean i have my son to take care of and the dr even put me on soe med. i just dont no what to do anymore can someone really help me here no matter what i do or try to do to not think about it it dont help me either it kinda makes it worse please help if u want u can email me my addy is [email]beamish21@dsli.com[/email] please if u email me just put home sick in the subject :confused: :("

featherish said: "Sorry to hear about that, Spunky. **Hugs** It is always hard when you break up, but things will get better. My grandma (rest her soul) always said "when God closes a door, he opens up a window" I know that you are probably pretty upset right now, but time will pass and there are many other young men out there. You can do a couple of different things, go back home, or keep your life in Washington. You will have to decide what is best for you.."

featherish said: "Good luck to you, Spunky! I hope it all works out for you. When is your flight?"

Henrietta said: "That's not cool. Have you done anything to meet people in the area?"

Henrietta said: "You could always dump the boyfriend and move home."

Heather said: "[QUOTE=katmoniz]Boy do i understand how you feel. I moved 1200 miles away when i was 18. Now I am married and had a kid with him but that was just as hard. It has been 8 years almost, wow, and i can say it does get easier. email them or call them as much as possible. Let your boyfriend know how you are feeling and ask him to be patient with you as long as you need to get used to the idea of being away from home. Now you might find this difficult with men they arent always the most sensitive creatures. Good luck and get rid of that ice cream...... :D[/QUOTE] Great Advice! Just because you are far away doesn't mean that they aren't close in your heart. Keep in contact with them, and if you haven't already, start building your life in your new town. Make some new friends, join in some activities. If you feel more at home in your new home it could help you feel better. :) Hang in there!"

Heather said: "Unless you are considering moving back, it is something that a lot of people struggle with. The internet also presents a way to communicate unlike any other. A friend of mine has a webcam that she uses quite often to talk to her friend in Canada. It still isn't "being there" but you can see the person while you are talking to them. It might make you feel a litlle closer to home.."

Heather said: "Hey Spunky! Chin up girl! There are a lot of fish in the sea, just because this one got away doesn't mean you should quit fishing! Now would be a good time to evaluate what you want in life. If you really like the area you are living in, and your making it Okay on your own, maybe it would be worth building a foundation there? It probably sounds a crazy idea, but maybe something better awaits you there? I mean, you can always go home, but maybe this will help to build your character and strength? Don't take it too hard, and we're here for you if you need it.."

Heather said: "Do what your heart tells you to do. Hang in there and everything will be OK!"

Heather said: "[QUOTE=spunkymonkey]well i finally talked to my mom, and she pointed out something that she found in the conversations that i told her that my b/f and i had. (she got to know him quite well while i dated him) she pointed out how home sick i have been since september, anyway you know the saying "if you love something set it free" well i think he knew how much it hurt me to be away from my familly and rather see me hurt everyday breaking up with me lets me go back home. i am not totally sure but knowing how he is this could be part of it[/QUOTE] That is probably true. I'm glad to hear you got in touch with your family. I hope you are feeling a little better today!"

spunkymonkey said: "i hate this feeling i am 26 years old and in august i moved away from the only area i had ever lived in to be with my boyfriend i moved 2000 miles away from my familly and i hated the town i lived in when i was there however the past week i have been missing home more and more wich has basically made me depressed wich makes me not feel hungry at all for a few days i acctually have to force myself to eat something and then a few days later i eat non stop i know its a bad cycle to get into but how can i stop crying over a pint of rocky road when i miss everyone back home so much. :("

spunkymonkey said: "[QUOTE=pixiechic]are you still living with your bf?[/QUOTE] i moved to be with my boyfriend but we havent moved intogether yet."

spunkymonkey said: "[QUOTE=Henrietta]That's not cool. Have you done anything to meet people in the area?[/QUOTE] other than meet my boyfriends familly and try to meet people at work no. i thought work would be a good place however the people that work in my area are wierd and self serving they talk behind each others backs and stuff and i dont want to be like that and dont really want friends like that. and most of the area of where i live is spanish speaking unfortunaly i dont know spanish"

spunkymonkey said: "[QUOTE=pixiechic]aside from being away from home, do you like it there? if you haven't met many people, making a new friend or two could lift your spirits. if your co workers aren't your cup of tea, check to see if there is a rec center or ymca that has classes or activities that you could get involved with. maybe there are some volunteer programs that you could get involved with? being a part of the community might make you feel more involved with it..[/QUOTE] i love it here, but its a totally different envirionment for me. i have always had a hard time making friends cuz i am shy. i was thinking of looking into that kind of stuff."

spunkymonkey said: "[QUOTE=katmoniz]Boy do i understand how you feel. I moved 1200 miles away when i was 18. Now I am married and had a kid with him but that was just as hard. It has been 8 years almost, wow, and i can say it does get easier. email them or call them as much as possible. Let your boyfriend know how you are feeling and ask him to be patient with you as long as you need to get used to the idea of being away from home. Now you might find this difficult with men they arent always the most sensitive creatures. Good luck and get rid of that ice cream...... :D[/QUOTE] well its good to know it will get easier, i guess i never realized how much my familly ment to me until i was out here."

spunkymonkey said: "i do call at least 3 times aweek but its not the same"

spunkymonkey said: "i miss my familly i miss my friends and that is what home is i dont really miss the area i lived in, in fact i hated it there i dont want to move back. i just want everyone to move closer to me."

spunkymonkey said: "yeah it would be but they all have some excuse like they have a life or something there i dunno but its ok my homesickness is going away my familly and friends have been calling me so its getting better."

spunkymonkey said: "easier said than done"

spunkymonkey said: "[QUOTE=Henrietta]You could always dump the boyfriend and move home.[/QUOTE] unfortuantely i dont have to since last night he dumped me. now i just have to find a way home it sucks i cant get ahold of anyone i know to talk to and i just wanna go home:("

spunkymonkey said: "i have been up for an hour and a half trying to get ahold of some one darn time difference, i hate crying all though i am now on the drepression diet"

spunkymonkey said: "[QUOTE=BigBoy]So was this a surprise, or did you see it coming?[/QUOTE] i knew it was comming i had felt us growing apart over the last month i just didnt want to believe it becasue i love and care for him alot. however our lives are just going 2 different ways and although we love each other we cant be together. wich is very frustrating since if he was mean to me or cheated on me i could be mad at him and not like him. instead i am hurt"

spunkymonkey said: "i like it here and all but it would be just too hard to be here because although our romantic relationship has ended we are still going to be friends i mean i could never just drop the friendship we have. however being here and seeing him would make things hard for me to deal with. i have learned many things since i have been here in washington. and i am very greatful that i had the chance to come out here and see what else the world offers. i have learned alot about myself and how much my familly means to me. and i know it is not set in stone that i have to stay in michigan forever, when i go back."

spunkymonkey said: "well i finally talked to my mom, and she pointed out something that she found in the conversations that i told her that my b/f and i had. (she got to know him quite well while i dated him) she pointed out how home sick i have been since september, anyway you know the saying "if you love something set it free" well i think he knew how much it hurt me to be away from my familly and rather see me hurt everyday breaking up with me lets me go back home. i am not totally sure but knowing how he is this could be part of it"

spunkymonkey said: "well i went out and bought luggage last night things are gettin easier day by day my parents are afraid that i would get stuck in a blizard going through the mountains in my car so i am flying back my now ex is being so nice and understanding, he is going to sell my car for me and then use that $ to send me my stuff and i know this is for the best and we are still really close we just cant be b/f and g/f cuz its kinda hard 2000 miles apart. and 2000 miles away is where i would rather be"

spunkymonkey said: "dont know yet i have to wait til thrursday to get my ticket hopefully i can get the flight out that night or the next morning"

Darren said: "Life moves on. If you get homesick, change the subject in your mind and do something else."

Darren said: "Sorry to hear that, SM. Just relax and make a few phone calls. Someone will be around soon, I'm sure."

Darren said: "So was this a surprise, or did you see it coming?"

Darren said: "It's tough getting dumped for sure. My first wife left me after 10 years. The reason she said was: [QUOTE] I'm not feelin' it anymore. [/QUOTE] I pined away for awhile but then I moved on. Truth is, the quicker you move on the better and there must be something a HELL of a lot better out there. I ended up getting re-married and am much happier than the first time, so I know for a fact things will be better for you. Good luck."

helplesscase said: "Try to look on the positive side of things. Try calling them and maybe take a visit sometime. And tell yourself that eating isn't going to solve anything, it will only make things worse. By the way, I like your avatar. :D"