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Heather said: "Personality is what counts. It doesn't matter what size you are.
A lot of women (including myself) like men that are a bigger. Someone should like you for being "you""
spectrachic311 said: "You're pretty close to your goal, so your plateaus (unfortunately) may be longer and your weight loss will probably slow down a little bit. The only way I can think of to break this plateau is to rev up your workout intensity a bit (not the duration, just how hard you're working). Add more weights to your bar, find a new challenging exercise to do, add speed intervals or workload intervals to your cardio, stuff like that. Change around your diet a little...if you eat mostly chicken, try fish for a bit. Eat different fruits and veggies. Drink more water. Good luck breaking the plateau!"
spectrachic311 said: "I have to agree with shy doll...getting cut will not get you girls in and of itself. I was thin for quite some time before I met my husband and I didn't get tons of guys mostly because I'm an introverted person to begin with. In high school, I didn't date much but it wasn't because I was fat it was because I focused on school a lot. Getting a girlfriend/boyfriend isn't all that hard, you know. There's always SOMEONE who will go out with you. You just have to be picky and choose someone who listens to you, cares about you, wants to be with you, has similar interests as you, and loves you for your insides. Because let's face it, when you're sixty it helps to have a little more to you than just your looks or you'll end up like Joan Rivers and be a plastic surgery addict."
spectrachic311 said: "I think women are generally looking for more than just looks when they are dating. I dated a guy who most women would've considered "the total package", as you say. He was muscular, fit, tan, very good looking, had really great hygiene, was smart, and treated me like a queen. But he turned out to be kind of shallow and when he found out I had been overweight, he said "You're not going to let yourself go again, are you?" I was really mad. Plus, I found out he had a porn addiction, so I was really better off without him. And now I'm married to a guy that may not be a supermodel, but he looks pretty good most of the time ;) More importantly, he loves me for me and not just because of my looks."
spectrachic311 said: "I happen to think Kevin James is a really cool guy. I'd date him if I were single again (for those of you who don't know...he's Doug on "King of Queens"). He may be a bit on the husky side, but he's got a great sense of humor. Do you have a girlfriend currently? I'm just curious."
spectrachic311 said: "I agree with you, shy doll. No matter what your age is, looks shouldn't come first. I do think looks are sort of a factor because you are physically intimate with this person, but I also think that when you fall in love with someone for who they are inside, their outside looks all that much better to you.
BTW....Is there a particular girl you are interested in dating right now? If so, why don't you go and ask her to have lunch with you or something else really low-key? So she can see your personality? I'm sure you have a great personality and no one can really see that if you don't show it to them. That's why I had such problems with dating in high school. I was very "closed" and I thought guys didn't want to date me because they thought I was ugly. The truth is, I wanted all these people to like me for me and I wasn't really showing anyone "me". With my husband, I actually had lots of conversations with him before we met and we really liked each other.
I hope you understand where I'm coming from :) You can learn from our experience ;)"
shy_doll said: "Just wanted to say that I applaud you for being so dedicated to getting your body into shape....but body alone is NOT going to get you those women you talk about. It's about you, the person inside, as well. Remember, that you aren't just that outside shell so don't just measure your self-worth based upon that. You have quite the determination to reach your goals which is awesome...just wanted you to remember that there is WAAAAY more to a person than their physical appearance. Way to go on working so hard to reach your goals...just remember to let that inside shine through the outside, it'll make for a much more attractive person all-around."
shy_doll said: "[QUOTE=At-War-With-Myself]maybe when your older personality matters more than looks, but for my age.. no way, ive sit back and still set back and watch it happen to so many people.[/QUOTE]
But would you really want these peoples attention if they are only looking for outwardly attractive people...I mean, if they don't like YOU for YOU then they aren't worth the time or worry in the first place....just my opinion."
DBrew said: "I can not believe guys are just as insecure about looks as us women! It is quite refreshing but at the same time just very sad that we have to feel perfect to be accepatable. Health is really the most important thing. If I was out there in the dating scene, a guy who cared about his looks alot and nothing else or just caring about being better than everyone else would REALLY turn me off. Truly, I look for intellect and stimulating conversation and a good sense of humor more than anything else. We women love to laugh and that is probably the best quality anyone could bring to the table."
At-War-With-Myself said: "I've came well down from my high rolling stage.. now being stuck at 210 for 13 days, i had a platuea at 248 that lasted 20 days,i fought threw it, and plan to do the same with this one. i just need some help, i eat plenty 1600 to 2000 cals a day. i just dont understand i mean its mathematics.. lol but i decided to come back to the inspirational and friendly posters on featherish for some words.. anyone?
i went from 210.. then 211 back to 213.. back to 211. .back to 210.. then today back to 213.. lol"
At-War-With-Myself said: "I just wanna be that guy, lean and cut, everyone envys and want to be, and I wont quit until I'm there. I just wanna be that guy, who is looked upon by everyone as being at the top. gets all the woman, I just wanna be that guy. ill never quit, or be completely content with my life ,until im that guy."
At-War-With-Myself said: "i got personality, I'm going to be the total package. I won't feel capable of anything pretty much, until I meet my standards. In this day and age looks are the primary factor when its comes to woman judging men, there is nothing anyone can say, to change my views and philosophys on that.I've seen it happen, I've gotten more attention, doors have opened, just from my 120 pound weight loss, and I guarantee even more doors will open when I'm done with my goal. I know it's gonna happen, I carry myself with a certain, swagger about me. am I a Ahole? No absolutely not, I just want to be able to feel good about myself 24/7 instead of just when im in a certain mood, and I wont be able to do that, until I'm 195, cut, small, tan, .. etc etc etc and I will do it, it may take time, but one day, im gonna look in the mirror and say By God I done it.. YO ADRIEN i did it.. .lol"
At-War-With-Myself said: "Well, you don't see Jessica Simpson , dating any chubby guys, or averages joes. I gotta be the standard."
At-War-With-Myself said: "ofcourse not, what else is new."
At-War-With-Myself said: "maybe when your older personality matters more than looks, but for my age.. no way, ive sit back and still set back and watch it happen to so many people. BUT YES 209.4 this morning.. the 20 day plateau is over.. im back up:cool:"
klynnfosh said: "There is more to love than looks, I have to agree with Spectra. Beauty is only skin deep, it is whats on the inside that is more important. And as to stars and looks well there is Jennifer Anniston and Vince Vaughn, I don't think he looks that great, but he has a great sense of humor, which is a great quality! It is alright to want the total package, but remember rejection comes even for those who look good, and life will have ups and downs no matter what you look like. I admire you wanting to reach your goal, but don't expect it to make everything in your life perfect."