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cvalh said: "Sooo... For a while (intermittently) I've been told by various people that I should see about going out with this guy. I was never really certain I was that interested in him (which is the only reason this story isn't a total diet killer, lol), but I got tired of wondering if everyone else saw something I didn't. I figured I didn't want to graduate college with a big "What If."
Last night I bit the bullet, asked him out for coffee or lunch, and did kind of a vague, "I'm interested in you" type thing. Long story short, he's flattered, not at all interested, but hopes we can still be friends. I'm actually kind of glad... But it's still a huge ego killer! I know, I sound like I want to have my cake and eat it too, but I guess I'd kind of come to think that maybe everyone else had a point about the two of us."
cvalh said: "That's awful... I wonder how he figures that makes a mature woman? Sounds like you lucked out to find out on the trip what a jerk he was. I'm not horribly disappointed in my situation - I'm just hoping it doesn't make anything awkward in the club we're both in."
spectrachic311 said: "Aw, Cass, I'm sorry! I totally know how you feel too. I went to Ukraine with this guy that I was VERY interested in. And I thought he was really into me too...he lived in Texas but he called me all the time and sent me stuff. When I went with him to Ukraine, he was a total jerk and I when I tried to tell him I was interested, he responded with: "You're not good enough for me. I only date MATURE women who will do what I tell them" For real, he said that. I decided I did NOT want to date him anyway!!
Good news was that after that fiasco, I knew exactly what I DIDN'T want in a guy and focused on what I did want...a month after the trip I met the guy that I married, so it all worked out for the better. I hope your situation does too."
Scarlett said: "As long as you act normal and don't let it get awkward I don't see why it would...unless he made it awkward of course.
Even though it is indeed an ego killer you should be glad it didn't work out...you were never really that interested in him in the first place, and it seems like getting with him in a way would be settling for you, and you don't want to do that. Wait for someone better to come along! :D"