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Anyone else dealing with less than suportive famliy members?Anyone else dealing with less than suportive famliy members?
Henrietta said: "Families are usually a pain in the butt!"
Heather said: "Hello!
Just keep in mind that you're doing it for yourself.
And let that be your motivation. People, even family members can be very critical.. probably because they don't think before they talk sometimes.
Keep on the path to better health, and don't let words (or lack of them) demotivate you!"
spectrachic311 said: "Family members sometimes want to help, but they don't always know how or what to say. Plus, they feel entitled to treat you with slightly less respect than you generally deserve. I know my sis wasn't very supportive of me losing weight. She kept telling me that the only thing shrinking was my chest :mad: She also refused to let me share clothes with her when I did get smaller.
The thing is, you do have to remember that it's your body, not your family's. You have to think about how you want to be feeling and looking in the future. Good luck :)"
Cadence said: "Hello Elise.
Welcome to the featherish. I hope that you can find the support you need from here. I also know the feeling of being unsupported by family. My mom lost alot of weight last year and everyone noticed and commented as soon as they walked through the door.
In the summer I had family commenting on my weight...specially my dad...he was always pinching my fat. :eek: I've lost over twenty pounds since the summer, and lots of inches...it's noticable. And at Christmas, I wore a very slimming outfit. No one said a thing. My husbands family however couldn't stop commenting on how much weight I had lost, and how good I looked. My family has never been one to hand out the compliments, and always quick to hand out critisism. But I do have lots of support elsewhere...specially my hubby. Look around you for friends and forums that are supportive- find other people that have been through the same thing as you, or encourage someone else to take this journey with you. All the best!"
Smittenkittenkat said: "I'm new here, just started today, and I beilive (i could be wrong) That my main problem is all the stress I have. My family is less than helpful with the whieght loss."
Smittenkittenkat said: "I think they want me to get bigger so my boyfreind will lose intrest in me and I'll move back in with htem. I know that's probably false, but I just get tired of hearing about how big I've gotten from them. I didn't even think it was a problem untill they started pointing it out."
Smittenkittenkat said: "I'm 152 or somthing now, maybe even 160 and everyone in my family thinks I'm getting much too fat. Even though my mom, dad, and grandmother are all around 200 themselves. The only person in my family that doesn't berate me for gaining punds is my little sister and she's a little bitty slip of thing wearing size 0 pants."
Smittenkittenkat said: "Thanks My boyfreinds family gets mad whenever I metion my parents behavior. They think it's wrong for them to talk to me like that. It still hurts though. I've been gettin critasism like that foever. When I was little I had aspurger's syndrome and Sensory Intagration Dsfunction. So I couldn't handle many types of clothes. My mom always told me "you would be so pretty if only you would wear/do this." So I've never felt good about myself."
Smittenkittenkat said: "Thanks guys. It hurts though. It's hard to diet because my boyfreind won't eat a lot of different things. Unless it's a popsicle or some meat it doesn't go past his lips. The only veggie he'll eat is a mashed potato. Forget about fruit. And somehow he's as thin as a rake. All he ever does is eat meat and pizza at his work. I don't kno what I can eat that he'll eat too and still be on a diet."
bam383 said: "I can totally understand where you're coming from. I'm a guy just under 300lbs, and for as long as i can remember i've had people who unknowingly held me back from losing weight.
my mom is about 5'9 and 150lbs and she acts like she's 250lbs and constantly talks about losing weight. any time i mention dieting she always brings up her case.
all my friends are thin. my "fattest" friend just looks thick. he just looks like he has a lot of muscle around him.
my ex was about 5'4 and between 110-150lbs and it was a constant struggle to make her understand she wasn't fat, etc. she was filipina, and anyone who is filipina probably knows where i'm/she's coming from
all of these people always got me thinking -- "if they're fat, then what am i and what hope do i have?"
maybe i used it as an excuse to not improve myself, i don't know -- but i no longer have the ex in my life, and i'm not around my mom much these days -- and my desire to lose weight has gone through the roof.
i'm not sure what exactly could help you, but you can't let it discourage you. i used that as an excuse for way too long. my motivation is always imagining what my family and friends will think as i continue to shed the pounds. maybe that motivation could be good for you. i use other people's put downs as a reason to go for a walk, lift some weights, etc.
anyways, i think i got off track -- i'm pretty antsy and can't seem to shut up. if you ever need to vent, my AIM is publicly available -- feel free to yell at me to relieve some stress, god knows it helps.
take care,
Brett"
shellybellyfly said: "My mom has been telling me for a while now that I'm getting too fat. When I told her that I didn't like to hear that, she just said that she doesn't want me to end up like her. So I think her heart is in the right place (kinda) but then she keeps offering me bad foods while I am trying to diet. And gets upset that I won't come over for dinner.
But anyway, just hang in there. Lose weight for you because you want to, not because someone else wants you to!"