Overcoming your childhood training - the secret of life

by Darren

How many bad adult behaviors stem from childhood training? I think quite a few. Most of these troubles weren’t the result of bad parents or mean-spirited training, but the fact that not everyone is really equipped at training others on how to live. Depending on what we learned when we were young, we might still feel programmed to act or feel a certain way.

What can we do to overcome some of the training? I think a good bit of it’s mental. If we realize that our parents were human, as were our school teachers, then we understand they were capable of being idiots, just like anyone. If something from your childhood plagues you to this day, it’s probably enormous baggage that needs to be released.

The number on thing you should do is share your feelings with someone. Understand that really a lot of people are genuinely supportive, and do want to see you succeed. Yes, there are a lot of obnoxious people in the world, but fortunately there’s even more good people who care what happens. If your parents are still alive and you have a grievance, then go ahead and bring it up. Maybe you can get somewhere. Maybe you won’t. But the act of being true to yourself can be helpful.

Do something to increase your self esteem. The act itself shouldn’t matter. It’s as simple as acting on a desire of yours to improve yourself and trying to replace your negative feelings with something a whole lot more healthy. It probably won’t be easy, but change never is.

Feeling bad about yourself will never work. Life is just too short to dwell on your shortcomings. Every person who ever lived felt at least some inadequacies. The key is how you feel about it and deal with it.

What are other things we can do to change how we feel and how we live?