Becoming Your Own Best Friend

by Rhonda

We’ve discussed various issues that have had an effect on our weight. Now its time to being to heal ourselves so that we can move forward towards our goals. One of the first steps that we need to take in order to achieve this is to become our own best friend. It’s hurtful when we are subject to derisive looks and comments when we go out in public, but the number one critic that hurts us the most can be found in our own mirrors. I can personally attest to this. I’ve looked at my reflection and instead of saying, “Hey, I look good”, I start in with the insults. These can include, “I can’t believe how fat I look in these pants”, “I look awful today”, or, “It’s disgusting how fat I’ve become.” During one of these self critical moments, I realized that if somebody else were to say these things to me I’d take their head off, yet here I was emotionally battering myself. If I have such negative feelings about myself, then why should anyone else view me any differently? Now, I’ve begun to tell myself that I look great. I won’t lie to myself about how my clothes might fit me, instead I focus on other aspects of myself that I think are attractive. So, instead of saying, “If my butt gets any bigger, someone will hang a license plate on it”, I focus on how nice my hair looks or how well I did my makeup. Instead of avoiding looking in the mirror, I smile at myself. A smile does wonders for your looks and makes you feel better about yourself as well. Remember that it is not how other people view you that matters. It’s important how you feel about yourself. Today’s affirmation is I view myself in a positive light. Say it 10 times and mean it. Peace - Rhonda