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[i:b61449ddb0] im just so depressed i hate being fat i know no one loves me cuz i let myself get this way it was all fine till i moved here and my fiancee dosent help me one bit feel better i just hate the way i look i hate everything abt me :( i wanted to lose 50 by christmas that isnt gonna happen! i wanna get back to 160 but pfft yea right :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :( :( :evil: :evil: [/i:b61449ddb0]
I know you can do it and you try your hardest and never give up and even though the distance we can do it and we can talk each other through it but no matter what he say's and all make sure you do it for you if no body else show everyone you can accomplish this for you and i am too
i hate being fat too. i actually have hated it for about 15 years! i realize i have wasted a lot of time when i should just lose the weight and get on with my life. but thats why i'm fighting back right now. and you can too. believe me: ANYONE can lose weight. my one buddy was always overweight and he finally put his mind to it and dropped 80 pounds. he looks a million percent better! if he can do it, so can you and i. don't be down on yourself.
I know how you feel, every since I had my first child, I wondered how could anyone love me with the way I look! I come from a family that is very 'up' on how you look. I was always told when I was in High School, that if I were a little bit thinner I could have been more popular, homecoming queen, etc. But you know what, I didn't even have a weight problem then! Even now I get the 'You look so much better' comments and that is always followed with 'When are you going to lose the rest of the weight'. Sometimes I interpret that as no one will love me till I'm thinner, but I have to set myself back and look at everything. When I look at the people that say these things to me, I start seeing where their insecurities are and realize they are saying these things out of insecurities about themselves. The thing is, feeling loved has to start with yourself. Everyday, this may sound strange, but I try to push myself in front of a mirror and just look at myself. I try to find at least one thing about my body that I love. Even if it is just your eyes, nose or even your hair, that is something that you love about you. Start loving yourself and you will see that things will fall into place. Feeling loved starts with loving yourself. It took me several years to figure that out. I'm 30 years old and have wasted so much time trying to get people to love me....people love you when you love yourself.
You are on the right track wanting to better yourself...but remember do it for you and no one else. If you do it for someone else, then you are doomed to fail (my opinion only).
Charity hit the nail on the head! You have to love yourself. Forget what others think about you. Generally they are full of it anyway. Believe in yourself and you can accomplish anything you want.
Thank you for the outstanding post Charity! :D
Of course, there is such a thing as loving one's self too much! LOL! :lol: For example, for years I did find all the "good aspects" about myself so that I could forgive my weight problem. However, I was really just kidding myself - I used those "good aspects" as a way to ignore or overlook my weight problem. Finally, I had to admit I had to do something about these extra pounds as well.
For me, the frustrating thing is how long it takes to lose weight. Yeah, yeah, I know... I didn't put this weight on in a few months, so I shouldn't expect to lose it that fast. And even though both my home and work scales indicate that I have lost weight and am continuing to lose weight, even though clothes fit better and I had to tighten my belt, even though I feel much more "alive" - when I look in the mirror, all I still see is this big gut in front of me. I still see fat drooping over my pants (ugh!). I still see fat on my back and around my chest and thighs. And I wonder - am I *really* making progress here? But then I flex and feel some muscles hidden under the fat. :wink: And I know progress is being made - I just have to keep at it. After all, what's the alternative? To remain heavy? I'm on my way - by Christmas, I might be looking pretty good. By next spring, I might just be ready for the upcoming summer season!
Hello Jasminesmom..
Nice to meet you! Cheer up.. life can not be nearly as bad as it seems. If you look inside yourself, I'm sure that you can find a lot of qualities that don't revolve around your outward appearance. IE, a good sense of humor, caring about others.. stuff like that. I would focus on your "good" qualities and address the weight problem. Your weight is temporary and can be lost through some effort.
If your fiancee is not supportive of you, Imight reconsider whether or not this is the man you want to have as a "lifemate"..as this most certainly be an issue for the next 20 or so years..
Keep your chin up and good luck to you. We will be here if you need to talk..
aww thanks guys! that really helps .. i think i mite be able to do this if i have ppl like u to talk to and help get through it. see i went down to 150-160 after i had my baby from 182 and i moved to missouri out here and now i gained alot of weight back cuz i dont know anyo9ne here and we have a car now i used to walk all the time out where i used to live its to dangerous for a grl to walk by herself out here i dont feel safe thats why i just it sucks. i wanna lose the weight BUT THANKS FOR THE AMAZING POSTS!
Nobody likes being fat.I hate it.I just don't know how to losei t.
[quote:150614e181="Carmen"]Nobody likes being fat.I hate it.I just don't know how to losei t.[/quote:150614e181]
eat less. exercise more. drink water.
I adored Carmen's post! I wish I had the guts to stand in front of the mirror naked and find something I like about myself. That takes true courage.
I remeber when I saw the scales tip over 200. I just wanted to dig a huge hole a hide in it. The shame and embarrassment I felt was completely overwhelming. The more I came down on myself, the more I ate. The more I ate....well, you can see the nasty pattern.
Is there a community centre near your home that you can go to to work out, rather than walking around in an unsafe neighbourhood? Or how about a community pool? (ah wait, scratch that, there's no way I would be caught dead in a bathing suit! :twisted: ) Another suggestion perhaps, head down to Wal-Mart and pick up some excersise videos! Wal-mart is fantastic for inexpensive Videos.
I wish you the best of luck and lean on us for support.
I know how you feel. I had to go shopping for new clothes over the weekend and I just wanted to crawl into a deep hole. When I was asked what size I wore, I was almost too embarassed to speak it out loud. But hey, you just have to put your chin up and realize that no matter what, you are still a good person. I feel better today because I got to put on my new sweater and look good instead of sloppy in old clothes that had stuff wrong with them. You will get there. We all will. We just need to have faith in ourselves and realize there is more to us than just our sizes.
I wish you luck! YOU CAN DO IT!
Of course, the best thing about buying some clothes now (while you still have those few "extra pounds"), is that as you lose weight, those clothes will feel more and more loose! I bought a pair of jeans back in May. Those jeans now are loose on me - and I love it! To me, that's the best sign that I'm truly losing weight.
Facing the fact that you are overweight is a challenge. I did it for years. But once you finally look in that mirror and state, "Yes, I am overweight - maybe obese - maybe even morbidly obese! O.K., I accept it. Now let's correct it. It will take a while, but I'm committed to doing it." I said that to myself and I keep saying it to myself. I've dropped around 30 pounds since August! I can see the differences. But I also see rolls and rolls of fat. So I know that I have a lot more to go. Therefore, I keep saying those lines to myself.
I hate being fat too and am anxious to lose the weight. But I know that I can't rush things. I made a promise to myself not only to lose weight, but to do it in the healthiest manner possible. No fad diets or quick weight loss schemes. I'm going with the ol' exercise and less food routine. It's the only tried and true method that guarantees success. And I'm learning tons on what foods to eat and what to skip.
So keep it up - eventually those pounds will fall. And when they do - even if it takes a year or more - all of that hard work will show! More importantly, after a year, you will have learned how to eat and exercise correctly, so that you will never be overweight again! That's my goal - and I hope to stick to it this time!
i definitely need some new clothes. i have been wearing the same pair of pants for awhile. mainly because "im gonna lose some weight".
Try not to see it as one thing, "being fat" that is way too overwhelming. No one can possible go from one size to a small size overnight. Instead why not think about the qualities that you love about yourself....there has to be at least a few you can think of right now. negative thinking will only make you feel worthless and then you may possibly turn to food. I am sure you are a beautiful person :D
peggy has a good point.
focusing on the negatives, or the things that you don't like about yourself only seems to amplify the problems.
advertising tells us every day that in order to be beautiful, you have to be thin. i think this has caused a lot of "body image" problems in girls and women, especially. we tend to forget that expert photographers are taking the photos and the capabilities of computers and airbrushing techniques can fix any real or imagined flaw. i have saw many candid photos of stars, and they are just like you and i. they don't always look that great when they aren't in a studio.